Why today is a bad day

Now I’m eating chocolate [July 23rd, 11:00 pm]…



… because I’ve had a bad day and I’m upset.



As you already know, Jimmy and I are busy looking for a house, where we can live together. This is stressful. Remember that lot of land I told you in the last post? Okay, well, forget it. It was a hoax. The owner tried to con us. But that’s another story and another blog post. I barely have time to work, have a shower, eat something and sleep. We are visiting houses, making calls… So I’ll explain that another day.

Anyway. I must admit I’m stressed. Maybe that’s why today I got angry with my in-laws. They don’t know I’m angry with them (hey, sometimes I can be a really good actress!), because I managed to bite my tongue. But if they start to state their opinions about the houses we are visiting, saying they don’t like them or other kind of criticism… I get angry. I appreciate people’s advice. Really. I like comparing points of views. But only when I ask for it. If I haven’t asked your advice, then it’s because I don’t need it or because I don’t want to know your opinion. As simple as that.

And when I’m extremely excited and happy about something (such as a house),

Happy!

Happy!

(and you know that), please don’t start saying you don’t like it. Because I canNOT assure you I’ll keep calm. Probably I won’t. So you better shut up. Have I asked your opinion? Nop. So why are you so busy body? I know I’m young. I know I have lots of things to learn. I know you  are older and have more experience. Maybe you’re trying to help. But I’m sure that when I need your help I’ll let you know. Meanwhile, stay away. Because I don’t know how I will react. Today I managed to bite my tongue, when my father-in-law told me that one of the many houses Jimmy and I have seen (and it’s our favourite) was too small, that he prefers we live in a certain suburb, and that we must look for a house with certains characteristics (roof, type of house, number of floors…). Excuse me? Have I asked your advice/opinion? Hmm, no. So what are you doing? Do you want to see the dark side of your daughter-in-law? Because I have one, I swear, and I don’t think it’s a good idea. This is just a warning.

this is my dark side...

this is my dark side...


But instead of saying that, I just looked away, took a deep breath and smiled.

Take a deeeeep breath... Dont say a word, and breathe deeply...

Take a deeeeep breath... Don't say a word, and breathe deeply...

and smile...

and smile...

Oh, and then I muttered “well, I’ll take that into account. But we like that house. We like its characteristics…”. And then he interrupted me, criticising again “our” house, trying to convince me to buy another kind of house. One he likes.

Excuse meee?

Excuse meee?

Are you kidding me? Because we won’t buy your dream house. We’ll buy OUR dream house. One we really like. Maybe you don’t like it. Well, I’m sorry. WE will choose and eventually buy OUR future house (and we’ll live there). So I don’t think it’s my parents or my parents-in-law’s business.



Oh and you know what? When I got into my car, I crashed my car into a pillar. And while I was driving, the left headlight of my car fell.

Hmm
Hmm

It’s been a great day…

:S

:S

[All the pictures used are from here, here and here]

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5 responses to “Why today is a bad day

  1. It seems like the in-laws are going to have their opinions no matter what. Perhaps in their minds, the only house that is good enough for their “little boy” is THEIR house. In the end, I’m sure you’ll end up doing what you want.

    That’s a bummer about the land. Something else will turn up eventually!

  2. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one that has to deal with all that craziness! My mom is the WORST! Thankfully my parents live far away so they couldn’t see what we were buying and I left out as many details as possible until we had already signed the papers – not that that stops the opinions from coming anyway 🙂

    Hang in there and enjoy the house hunting!

  3. Been there and done the over domineering parents in-law thing. Poor you 😦
    It must be hard for Jimmy being stuck in the middle too.

    I hope you and Jimmy are able to decide what you want and stick to it without too much stress!

  4. Dealing with in-laws can be rough. In the end, it is your house you will be living there not them. It is a very big, important purchase and I hope that the in-laws back off and let the two of you find something you both love!

  5. Oh I TOTALLY get what you mean about asking for peoples opinions! Ugh that’s one of my pet peeves!

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